Week 1 Reflection – Being Kind to Myself

Last Saturday I told you I was going to take on the Kindness Challenge – 7 weeks working RevofKindnesstoward being more kind. Which I discovered at Niki’s site, which you should visit.

My first week’s assignment was to practice being more kind to myself. When I told my family, they laughed.

“When are you not kind to yourself?”

Oh… um… is it that obvious?


The thing of it is, I don’t see the point of not being kind to myself. If I don’t take care of myself, treat myself with respect, honor my choices and stand by my decisions, then how can I expect others to?

Not that I’ve always been this way. As much as I joked about it in my Irreverent Mother’s Day post, I don’t really want to revisit my 20s. My internal critic was in full force back then, and never once took notice of my flat belly. (Damn that internal critic!)

It wasn’t until my mid 30s that things really turned around for me. That’s when I decided, aw, screw it. I choose happy.

Feel free to add that to your list of memorable quotes. Here, I’ll get it started for you:

Aw, screw it. I choose happy.  — C.J. Hartwell

So yeah, I’ve had a good week, but then I’m usually pretty good at getting my way.

By the way — little side note — Husband went to a leadership training event and they were given a test to see what their leadership style was. How they handled conflict, resolved issues, that sort of thing. The results were given in terms of animals.

Husband scored as a Teddy Bear. He brought the test home and asked me to take it. I came out a Shark.

I don’t know what made me think of that just now.

Anyway, back to the subject at hand, I told Husband that maybe my willingness to be kind to myself had to do with being the youngest of five kids. Maybe that’s why I’m selfish.

You know what he said? He said, “Being kind to yourself isn’t the same as being selfish.”

I concurred.

Remember, this is a guy who attended seminary and has experience in counseling, so you can believe him.

Here, let’s pull his quote out too:

Being kind to yourself isn’t the same as being selfish. — The Teddy Bear

And since I’m all about quotes today:

I concur. — The Shark

So be kind to yourself, lovely readers. The Teddy Bear and Shark have spoken.

16 thoughts on “Week 1 Reflection – Being Kind to Myself

  1. You are so funny CJ! Picking a quote to share this on Twitter is going to be hard! I liked the first one and then each subsequent quote more as I read further!

    I struggle with feeling selfish when I’m kind to myself so I have an affirmation on my vision board telling me that it’s not selfish to be kind to myself hahahaha.

    I’m glad that this week came so naturally to you and am sure it will serve you well in the weeks to come! What a great post and it sounds like you are quite the hoot CJ!

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